Things holding us back to move forward

Have you ever found yourself in a place of not moving forward? This can be in any area of your life.

There are times when our thoughts are the biggest preventer of us going anywhere. 

Our thoughts so easily gets the power over our being. One morning you stand up from your bed and you dont know why you are feeling miserable at all. 

You just feel like not smiling, being irritated with everyone and you just have no reason for feeling the way you do.

How does this happened?

Thoughts is the reason. Yes this is where all the stories you tell yourself plays off. 

You see things that does not exist , you think people dont like you, you want people to like you, you are irritated with small things

It becomes a major problem when you cannot celebrate other people. You have a need constantly to compare yourself with others. 

Why putting yourself in a place of unhappiness. Yes, this is what comparison does. You measure yourself with other's life and in this you have no joy.

There are so many things you can be greatful for. Your life, your health, your work, your family and so much more in your direct environment.

The journey of life is set out for everyone to achieve good things. It is not only material things but so much more such as eternal life. 

Here are a few things that prevent you from moving forward.

Competition is a ugly thing that prevent us moving. It keeps us stuck in one place by watching other people's photos and fb accounts. 

Why is it bothering you when people move forward?

Stop being focused on that and focus on your path. You are your biggest stumble block.

Fixing our eyes on the wrong priorities also is a prevention of moving forward.

What are you spending most of your time on. Is it beneficial towards you or is it just consuming your time.

You should gain something from the events you keep yourself busy with. Invest in yourself so that you have a  broader picture of where you are moving too.

Fix your eyes on your path and refrain from focusing on your instagram friends photos. Sometimes it is not always true what you see on social media. So be careful wishing the life of your influencers.

Do you know your purpose?. The reason you are here. Yes , if you dont know why you are here , you wont know how to move forward or where to go. 

Discover your abilities, your gifts and talents and so you will be more goal-orientated and moving into the direction where yous should go. 

Do not think time will run out if you dont reach certain things within a time period. You are in competition with no one but yourself.

Cut loose from things and people that witholds you from moving forward and making progress in your daily tasks or improvement program.

The main goal is to never stop going forward regardless of the pace you are going at. 

Today you should be further away from today or yesterday. Start evaluating your own progress by measuring yourself against yourself.

It is tiring to compare yourself constantly against someone else and it is time consuming.

See you rising and moving forward.

CWR

Celebrate yourself

We are in the month of celebrating women all over the world.  We are reminded of the value women have in our society.

As a woman myself I am excited to say , "Women rock"! Yes , you rock and eventhough you still dont believe it yet, you sure will soon.

Are you thinking you dont matter as a wife, mother, sister or woman?. 

Do you feel wortless and without any purpose?

You matter and you have such potential hidden within you that you should discover for yourself. 

Many times in life we are so focus in being perfect. We want to have the perfect body , our houses must be clean at all times, our food must be of the best quality or our clothes must resemble our success. All of these things however does not validate you as a woman. 

You have so much more to offer besides the things that can been seen with the physical eye. A true story of the value of a woman of valor can be found in Proverbs 31. We always hear about the Proverbs 31 woman and immediately evaluate ourselves  against her characteristics. 

Yes this a awesome woman , a woman with a plan but it does not mean you should tick yourself off against her. She is the example set and so you can be in your own unique way. The moment we as woman stop to compare ourselves with other women , the better we will realise the uniqueness we all have. 

We will discover the power lying within us to become unstoppable in this life. 

There a many scars that we might have and yes we have been hurt emotional, physically, spiritually and mentally. It should not remain like this because it will keep us in bondage forever. We should break free from this and you can be healed through Jesus Christ our King  and Saviour ,son of God.

The day we see ourselves through the eyes of Jesus Christ the son of Father God we will start to realise our super power and go all in to take hold of what is meant for us. 

I love the verse in Proverbs 31 that says  .." a woman who fears the Lord should be praised". How wonderful does that sound. That everything about us should be found in Christ. 

This implies to me that outside Christ we will always remain helpless, powerless, broken, dispressed, under valued and incomplete.  You dont have to stay in bondage forever. See the beauty inside yourself when you look at yourself today in the mirror.

You dont have to have a man to validate you, you dont have to have all the riches to make a statement, you dont have to have all the nicest of clothes to be noticed. When you dig inside yourself hard enough you will discover the pearls that no money can buy.

Start to celebrate yourself.The small progress in every small area are to be celebrated. If you dont do it , who will?. You are made in the image of God and become who He made you to be by staying grounded in Him. 

If you still dont know Him personally it is about time to have a real relationship with Him. He is waiting with open arms for His precious daughter.

In Him you are healed,  blessed, royal, chosen, called, victorious, a warrior and a child of God.

Outside God we will always feel a certain kind of lack and not good enough. It is time to take back your power and believe you are born for greatness. 

May you celebrate yourself everyday in all circumstances because you are worth it!. 

CWR

Becoming better

Have you recently look at your life and saw someone you don't like?  

Yes , sometimes we do look at ourselves and it might happen that we don't like what we see. Maybe you have neglect yourself by not eating healthy and always going on the quick foodies. It can be also that you don't put much effort into your hair or nail care. Maybe you have not dress up lately because of the lockdown situation. In fact maybe you just let yourself go. If this is the case , it is not too late to try again. In fact to become the better version of yourself.

 

Maybe there are also something in your life that you don't like currently. This can be the management of your finances, prioritising family time, meeting deadlines at work or just cultivating relationships. It is never too late to keep on working on these situations you might find yourself in.

 

It is the start of a new month and it is a month of new beginnings. This means it is the ideal time to identify the areas in your life whether personal or professional that you don't like and work towards becoming better on each area. This however will require you to become intentional on the changes that you want to see manifest during this month. It will be a fruitless exercise if you do not put it in writing.

 

Journaling about it will be a great start so that you can go back at the end of the month of August and see if you adhere to your plans. Draw up a goal system for this month so that it will have clear guidelines. 

 

We should keep in mind that every journey in life comes as a process and we must not expect immediate changes in any area if we do not put in the work. No work , no results. We have dreams and goals and its time to bring it to manifestation.

 

Are you tired of not seeing results? Well if not, you better start to. Its is much more exciting to have a reason to stand up in the morning then just dragging through each day with no "Why". Yes that is the other important thing you need to discover this month. The reason why you are doing what you are doing. The impact it has and the value it brings to your life and to those within your sphere of life.

 

Each day given to us is to begin again and live life. Identify the key areas and work  on it consistently every day and see the results of it soon.

 

I cant wait to start working and I will keep you updated by informing you with every detail.

 

Lets do this together. Share with me the things you came up with and the improvements made.

 

C>W>R

Self-care is essential. When you dont look good you also tend to not feel good. There is no reason for us not to become better.

Becoming better has many other areas as well. This can be in your finances , business, your habits, your family life, your friendships or even in your workplace environment.

Tired

How can one be full of energy one moment and all of a sudden you become so tired?.

Everyday mundane tasks can make one so tired. You do things over and over and you dont know when will it end. There is always things to do. It is either the dishes, folding clothes, mopping the floors or just dusting. 

Whatever the task there will be always something to do. To top it off there is also work to go to. Yes , you begin to feel all of this is just too much. 

How do women do all of this?. In fact how did our parents manage  with almost 10 children atleast.

Well I only have two wonderful, adorable children. I would not trade them for anything. I enjoy spending time with. However somedays is better than other days. 

Those days when you just feel like doing nothing. Where you go slow and just reckon things will work itself out. No more stressing about dishes or a clean house. 

Being a newly wife, mother  and working woman does have its up and down days. I am getting really exchausted certain days. I belief it is normal. I mean dont expect me to be the same mood everytime. 

Where do one get the strenght to do all the things expected of us as working mothers?.

I have my own battles in the mind usually. Lies that always want to creep in and that wants to always make me feel lousy and just plain rude. Well I am tired of being tired.

I am fed up that my circumstances wants to determine my joy. I am taking back everything the devil want to rob me off.

It is not that I am unhappy at all. I mean I have reason to be thankful for my life. A wonderful husband with awesome children. 

It is just that sometimes I want to do everything and forget that I have helping hands that are always offering their help. Staying alone for a long time has this result  I eventually realised.

Why do we want to make things difficult for ourselves when we can reach out for help?

Listen to me. If you are like me who wants to do things alone. Please stop it!!. You will destroy yourself completely. You will be so exchausted at the end of the day that you wont have time to spend it with your family.

Stop thinking that you must do everything yourself. Ask your housemates for help . It will make life so much easier for you and those around you. Give your best to those who are close to you.

They can not accomplish anything with you when you are all worn out because of battles you are fighting in your head. 

Get out of your head!!. Fix your eyes on Jesus!. Yes He is the answer always. I must always go back to Him and repent and ask for His strenght again. 

The Bible says that His strenght is made perfect in my tiredness or weakness. So how is that for refreshment. Such a relief!!. 

Thank you God that I dont have to always run to facebook, whatsapp or friends and family that cant always help. But to know that you are always with me to give me new strenght and fresh energy to carry on. I am more than a conqueror through the power of Jesus Christ working in and through me.

Without Jesus I am nothing. I thank you for the grace .I can go boldly to the throne of God and receive grace always when I ask Him in prayer. 

Nothing can steal my joy except if I allow it.

Do you feel tired?. Hopeless?

I have news for you.  Jesus is your answer. We always try things on our own strenght and leave Him out. It is time to allow Him in if you never did. Give Him the oppertunity to show you who He is and who He can be in your life. 

He refresh my soul!! 

CWR

Broken and healed

Have you been broken to the point in your life that seemed like there is no way out?

One never know that you will be faced with a situation so hopeless. You as an indivual become so powerless and dont see any way out except to just quit your life. Yes, to the point where you feel you can just end everything by taking your own life. 

You think its the easy way but you forget the consequences it will have on your family and friends. 

Can a situation in your life be so bad that you want to give up on yourself? 

It is not good to be alone in a time like this. Everyone is not always fortunate to survive suicides. I mean many failed but majority has passed away. The people you thought had it all together just ended it in a day's time. That is so painful. It is devastating when you knew the person personally and that you could do nothing to prevent it. 

It is in a time like this that you question yourself. Have you done enough?Did you not see the signs?. 

No one can take the blame for someone else's death. It will just destroy you emotionally when you start to overthink it.

Everyone get to a situation in our life that feels like we cant carry on anymore. We feel like a failure and useless. The choices we made led to the problems we find ourselves in. We only have ourselves to blame for the mess we made. No one else can fix it for you but you. 

How do you see yourself? How do you feel about yourself? Do you even love yourself?

These are the questions you should ask yourself when you feel like a dissapointment and not seeing reason to carry on. It usually takes a major dissapointment to bring us to our senses. It takes your heart to really become attach to someone or thing and the moment we arr about to loose it, we are brought to our reality. 

Why must we first reach such a stage in life before we can see clearly?. 

We tend to chase the wrong things of importance and spend all our energy on it. It takes all our power and value and let feel useless and ugly.  To be healed one must be broken first. Well not for everyone. There are those who choose right throughout their life and I belief it is because of the positive exposure they get.

It is so good to know that you can pass on the lessons you learned through your pitfalls in life. I am grateful for the obstacles and wrong decisions I made in life because it changed my perspective totally after coming to my real sense. I was so broken and God came and healed me.

It is a proces we need to walk with the Creator ,our Father God. My grace journey started  when I realised I could not do life anymore on my own strenght and my wisdom. I had to surrender and start again. It doesnt matter where you are in life , if you do it without God it is in vain. Fix your eyes on the Lord God and who is the healer for our brokenness.  He is all I ever want and all I ever need.

Broken and now healed.

CWR

Future self

Dear future self

I have no idea where I will be in 5 years from now. Do you perhaps know?

What I really do want is to look back at this post knowing I never gave up on believing , dreaming, striving and becoming better in everything I do. As I am laying here in bed on a Sunday afternoon ,taking our usual Sunday afternoon nap, there are so many things going through my mind. 

I am reminded of my growing up years. It is as if I am digging into memories I cant remember so good anymore. My aim however is to put the puzzle together. From where I have started until now. How life really become what we make of it.

How every dream we have fall into place once we start to chase it down. The effort we make to accomplish it regardless of all the obstacles and hardships. I am so grateful for all the naysayers , all the impossibilities,  all the negative circumstances I had to endure. It made me more determined to try again. 

I tried so many things to get a work . The multiple job applications I completed . The interviews that I missed because of transport. The jobs that I thought I would get but never did. 

I thank my Heavenly Father for a bright future I can look forward too. I am really not longing to have more things because what I have now is so much mpre precious. I have a beautiful family. A wonderful husband, a handsome son and a bright little girl. What more can I ask for? 

To my future self I want to say" Well done"! You went after what you wanted. There were times you thought it is impossible. But you did it. That dream, that desire that has been placed in your heart , you got it now!!

I mean there were a time in my life when I thought I would not get married. I said no its not possible because our family does not do weddings.  But God made it possible. What are you telling your future self?

Im excited of what the future holds for me. I am not allowing my past to hold me back anymore.  I am tired of comparing myself with others and I am focusing on my journey from now on. Yes , i am unique and I a have assignment to complete on my own. It is set out for me and me alone and no one else can walk it out for me. 

Its time to look at that future self and start to like him or her!!. Life is so precious and to be able to breathe at this very moment is a miracle. Many people did not see the day because of sickness, hunger , fear for the future and gave up on life. Dont let the pandemic put fear in your heart. This too shall pass. 

Start to focus on your magnificent future self. In 5years be the person you said you want to become. Celebrate small victories along the way and never stop learning and becoming better an better in what you do.

Maybe you feek stuck in what you are doing right now buy what about what you can do about it. Why dont you change the way you look at it. There must be a reason why you are doing what you are doing. Dig deeper in yourself for what you were called to do. 

Find the real you and excel in it!!. The joy of the Lord is our strenght so know that life outside God is not going to be so fruitful at all. We think we can depend on our own strength but it all is beacsue of God. He is in control of our lives and He allows things in our lives to work out for the good. 

Hello future self !! I love you, I celebrate you, you are awesome, you are a star, you are unique and I like your effort to impact. 

Have a beautiful next 5 years of your life. I salute you!!!

CWR

Life without Christ

Have you ever thought you are ok just by hearing about God? 

Yes you know about God but you never experienced him personally.

Well that was me almost 4 years ago. I thought I was fine because I read my bible. I prayed at times. I also knew there are certain things right in Gods eyes and certain things that are sins. 

Well I did not worry to much when I went out partying because I always came back the next week and repent. It went all like this all the time. 

I kept journals of these repentance conversations.  I thought I was good. You know you are doing things that you are not suppose to do. There are always that voice inside of you that tells you to stop, go this way or that way. 

I thought I could live a double life. Be someone at home with my parents and family and totally a diffrent person when I am with colleagues and friends. When I look back at the past I can really see now where I went wrong and where I tried to make God happy in my own strenght.

I tried a life without Christ. I had no personal relationship with him because I thought that I first have to finish with certain sins. I thought I am not ready yet to become a boring person that does not drink or that goes to clubs. I wanted to be part of the group and enjoy life. 

How blind can one be. I mean God does not want perfection  because no one is. Only Him God is perfect. My life looked great from the outside. Money was good. I could support my parents and my son . Everything was hunky dory but there was something missing. I had bad relationships with friends I called boyfriends that time. Every relationship just did not worked out.

I realise now I was looking for something only God could fill. Past failures are there to build us to become better then we were. It is a lesson and not a life sentence. We dont have to stay in the situations that we dont like, that does not fulfill us. 

I learned that the One who made me should be placed first  in my life. God knew me better than anyone and all I was looking for is found in Him. 

He is a father, friend, lover, companion and I just had to surrender to Him. God broke me graciously so I could be made whole again. He filled me up with His love, His kindness and His mercy.  If it had not been for God who took me back into His family I would not have been able to write this right now. 

I am so thankful to God that I could get the chance to fix my relationship with Him . To walk with Him and know that there are no sins between us that can keep me from talking to Him.

Yes I am not perfect and I do still sin but now I am not condemn anymore but convicted. The Holy Spirit let me do things that are acceptable to God. We should come as we are to God and not wait for when we think we are perfect.  God wants the glory for making you whole again.

Life without Christ is a  waste of your precious time. Things dont work out because you have the wrong priorities.  You have idols and do not worship God with your mind, heart, all your strenght and your soul. 

Give everything to God and let Him start to fix you and mould you and shape you. Its a beautiful journey. Fix your eyes on Jesus everytime you want to be reminded of your past. 

Its a wonderful journey with God. Yes it is not easy but surely worth it. I am no longer  a slave but I am a child of God. 

I have victory !!Im redeemed and I am free!!. 

Thank You Jesus Christ the son of God our Father. Thank for the Holy Spirit who lives within me and comfort me in everything I do. 

CWR